There are still a few spots left in our next Divorcing Ed retreat October 12-14. I would love to see you there! You will experience firsthand the power of Thom’s “divide & conquer” method of eating disorder recovery, learn recovery techniques that really work, and have fun in the process! For more information, contact Julie at thomtalks@aol.com or 615-406-8968 or visit http://www.lifewithouted.com/workshop.php. What some participants have said about the Divorcing Ed Retreat: You saved my…

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If you have been heavy your whole life (or most of it), you may believe that your main problem is getting your body to a healthy, more comfortable weight. You may be convinced that your life will be dramatically different when you’re at your ideal size and that you can then kick back and enjoy life. If you are so obese that your size restricts mobility and activity, you may find that life does vastly…

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Members of the Food and Feelings message board (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/foodandfeelings) are doing some amazing work on emotions by reading my Food and Feelings Workbook and discussing it online. If you haven’t checked out this board run by Linda Moran (How to Survive Your Diet), give it a whirl. Board members (and those on Linda’s Diet Survivors board at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/dietsurvivors) post and respond to each others’ comments. I also do some occasional posts. Other than following some…

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Hi! I will be speaking at the 2007 NEDA Conference, which is being held in San Diego, California, October 4th – 6th, 2007. The theme of this year’s conference is “Eating Disorders Come in All Shapes and Sizes.” I would love to see you there! For more information: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org If you would like to stay posted on all of my events, please join my Ed-busters email list at www.lifewithouted.com. Thanks so much. Jenni

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Science tells us that when we restrict calories too severely, we automatically rebound by obsessing about food and feeling driven to overeat. This is the body/brain’s way of righting itself and staying in balance. Engage in this process often enough and you’ve got an eating disorder in the making. But there is another way that you can create an eating disorder–by using it to mask the more difficult problems and dilemmas in life. It’s all…

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I’ve been thinking lately about a comment an overweight client made in an offhand way that seems to capture the intense emotions women have about their and other women’s bodies. She mentioned that while shopping she’d seen a middle-aged woman with a “good figure” who was wearing short shorts. Her first reaction was envy that a woman in her 50s still looked so trim and “like a teenager.” However, when my client looked more closely,…

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To continue our conversation about that contraption we all know so well, I want to share someone’s personal story with you. I hope you enjoy Amy’s inspirational words below. (Thanks for sharing, Amy!) Best,Jenni My Love Hate Relationship with the Scale and Numbers by Amy P., Portsmouth, NH I’ll never forget that day, I wanted to celebrate, I was so proud. It was the day I was at the doctors office for one of those…

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Occasionally I hear a description of eating, especially bingeing, that seems to my ears to be tinged with violence. This may sound like a harsh word to apply to eating, but it is appropriate. Sometimes a person actually uses the term “violence” to describe her binges; other times I can hear the self-hate and self-destructiveness in her tone. Stop and think if you are someone who would use violence to describe the tone of your…

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Hi everyone! I just returned from a great trip to San Francisco and Sacramento. I had the opportunity to speak about eating disorders — to share my experience, strength, and hope. When I entered my hotel room in San Francisco, I noticed a well-known contraption beneath the bathroom sink: the scale. Years ago, Ed would have taken advantage of this scale and attempted to ruin my trip. Today I am thrilled to say that the…

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Although I occasionally meet disordered eaters who have been using intuitive eating consistently for years, more often I run into folks who try it, give up, resume dieting, re-discover that diets don’t work, and come back to attempting to eat “normally.” If you feel like a failure because you’re not where you want to be with food and don’t know what else to do, you may be frustrated because neither dieting nor intuitive eating is…

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