I am speaking in Las Vegas on Wednesday, June 3rd. I am so excited about this event, because the topic is: What Does Recovered Really Look Like? Since you guys posted such great comments on my last blog entry, I wanted to get your feedback regarding this topic as well. Being recovered means something different to each of us. I used to think that I would be fully recovered when I reached a healthy weight…

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"Being able to say that one is a survivor is an accomplishment. For many, the power is in the name itself. And yet comes a time in the individuation process when the threat or trauma is significantly past. Then is the time to go to the next stage after survivorship, to healing and thriving. … One can take so much pride in being a survivor that it becomes a hazard to further creative development. ……

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A Newsweek article (4/6/09), “Tales of a Modern
Diva,” made me sick to heart how women will ever shake societal pressure to be
thin and beautiful. It describes how younger and younger girls are obsessively
focused—moreover, being focused by the media and their parents—on their
appearance. I’m not saying that men don’t have pressures to look good, too.
They do, but nowhere near the burden that women feel.

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One of the hardest parts of being over- or underweight and recovering from eating problems is figuring out how to deal with unkind or merely unhelpful remarks. While some assertive folks never put up with inappropriate commentary directed toward them on any subject, others stand up for themselves in every aspect of life except eating or weight. Learning how to handle improper comments is an essential life skill.


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I am doing an upcoming workshop with Rebecca Bass, LMFT, and Megan Holt, MPH, RD in Carlsbad, California called "Myths & Meaning: Recovering from an Eating Disorder." This title got me to thinking that I would love feedback from you guys about the myths that you have experienced (or continue to experience) along your recovery journey. What myths about eating disorders have people told you that negatively impacted your recovery? Or what myths does society…

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It’s time for another reminder that we are highly unique individuals. Although we have a great deal in common physically and emotionally, each of us has a different emotional pain threshold that may promote or encourage tolerating discomfort in the eating arena. This is why it’s so dangerous to compare your progress to that of others. Remember, your psychological pain may be greater or less than someone else’s.


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Who are you?  Not the song by the Who, or the theme to CSI, but how would you describe yourself? Sounds easy enough to the person asking, but occasionally to the person being asked, this can provoke a quite complicated response. "In what way?" "Around who, my friends or family?" "I'm not sure I understand."  But underlying this concept are multiple psychodynamic theories. Consideration of psychodynamic theory and when most eating disorders have their onset (often teen years)…

Read More I may be confused, but I’m not sure…

How exactly do we acquire our identity and how does it shape our eating? Much of who we are is dictated by our genes—temperament and talent, for example—but what of other factors? Are you who you think you are, who other people think you are, or a composite of both? If a major part of your identity is feeling unloved and unlovable, how does that affect your ability to overcome food and weight problems?


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