When the idea of "legalizing" food was introduced
some three decades ago, I was just starting to work through my own dieting/binge-eating
struggles. By the time I began to treat and write about disregulated eating, I
was pretty much a “normal” eater and no longer thought about food as good or
bad, legal or illegal. Now, I’m concerned with how much trouble disregulated
eaters have with the term legalization. For too many of you, it seems to
provide license to go hog wild with food which, of course, creates more
problems than solutions. My ideas on legalizing food may differ from other experts, and
hopefully will help those of you who are trying to expand food options constructively.

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I receive emails on a regular basis from individuals who are recovered from their own eating disorder and who want to help those who still struggle. One of the best ways we can provide hope, help, and support to others is by example—by being a healthy role model to those around us. Start today! Here are some ideas for anyone who wants to be a healthy example in this world: •    As you go through…

Read More Do you want to help others?

I’m always thrilled when the media catches up to enlightened
thinking. Sadly, it’s a rare occurrence, which makes it worth mentioning
because, to greater or lesser degree, what we read, hear and see often shapes
our thinking. A NYTimes article by Roni Caryn Rabin, “Fat Wasn’t Always
a Bad Thing,” jumped off the page at me. It’s one of the few I’ve read for
public consumption that views fat from a logical, realistic perspective.

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   It is only when we allow our old stereotypes of "eating disorder patient" to fall away that begin to entertain the prospect that men, and Americans of every cultural background are falling prey to eating disorders.   As Stephanie Covington Armstrong states in her memoir; Not All Black Girls Know How to Eat: A Story of Bulimia, letting go of the strong black woman archetype gave her permission to seek help for the eating…

Read More Not All Black Girls Know How To Eat: A Story of Bulimia…an exclusive with Stephanie Covington Armstrong

Now that my new book, NICE GIRLS FINISH FAT—PUT YOURSELF
FIRST AND CHANGE YOUR EATING FOREVER, is out, I’m often asked whether nice guys
have the same problems as nice gals. The answer is yes and no. There are many
excessively nice guys out there who have the same traits and use food in much
the same way as “nice girls,” but they don’t have the double whammy of family
dysfunction and cultural expectations shaping their personalities and relationship with food.

Read More Nice Guys May Finish Fat Too

In her amazing book, MY STROKE OF
INSIGHT: A BRAIN SCIENTIST’S PERSONAL JOURNEY,
Jill
Bolte Taylor,
Ph.D., maintains that it takes
about 90 seconds to pass through the physical phase of experiencing an emotion. Aside from recommending the book as a terrific read, I found her
knowledge of and insights into the workings of the brain useful in thinking
about behavioral change, in this case about emotional eating.

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I came across this image today and visited the PETA website.  This billboard is displayed in Jacksonville, Florida near the beach.  Few things render me speechless.  Astonished.  Simply astonished.  Have they no shame?  The most inflammatory part of the entire campaign is their use of an overweight woman's frame and equating with a whale.  How does that NOT promote dieting and societal shame. On their website, they even have a links leading to A+ vegan lunches for…

Read More PETA wants to “Save the Whales”

A new Associated Press/iVillage survey concludes that
American women are shedding pounds for the wrong reason. Want to guess what,
according to research, the primary motivation should be to successfully
keep weight off? Want to guess what the most common motivation is? If your
first answer was “for good health” and your second was “to look good,” you’re
right in line with the AP survey results.

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If you’re a plus-size woman, this blog could be a downer—but
only if you let it be one. An article in ScienceDaily (6/23/09), “Heavy
Women Have Lower Quality Relationships, But Same Is Not True for Men, Study
Finds,” is far from heartening, but, remember, research is about statistics and
doesn’t dictate your romantic choices or situation.

Read More Weight and Relationships