Years ago, I never thought I'd ever write something positive about what appeared on the pages of Glamour magazine.  I admit that I looked at its pages wistfully, as it regularly featured models and fashions of only a certain size, a size I wasn't. 

I've come to recognize after perusing this magazine (and similar magazines) for years I knew that much of what was featured diet and exercise-wise was recycled.  Fashion trends also cycle as well as preference in body shape…to a point.  After all, no one is petitioning to bring back the women of Rubens' era, just using "plus size" models with airbrushing; with plus size being generally women of smaller than "average size." 

The question Glamour correctly asks in its November 2009 issue is, "Is this want we really want to see?" It is based on the the age old question of, "What do women want?" At times we complain that models are too thin and unrealistic; take for example recent Ralph Lauren airbrushing where the model's head was the same width as her waist.  Yet, we do like fantasy and don't always want to be confronted by the truth.

We are a culture that is bred on Cinderella, Snow White, Barbie and Slim Fast.  We need to know that someday our Prince will come.  We want to look in the Mirror on the wall and have it tell us that we are the fairest of them all.  Can we really tolerate our models actually looking like us? After all, Disney has the Magic Kingdom, not the Magic Living Room.

Read More Truthtelling* by Glamour Magazine–This month’s review

When the holidays turn into something to get through rather than something to celebrate, something is wrong. Holidays are supposed to be happy times, so why do so many people get depressed, frustrated and stressed out? People start wondering how will they avoid the Halloween candy, or how the heck they will cook a fabulous meal for 30 people at Thanksgiving, or if they can buy all the gifts they are supposed to, or if they will look…

Read More Soul Food for the Holidays, Part 1

Let me get this straight. Many of you are afraid to try
something because you might be disappointed, right? But so many disregulated
eaters are already hugely disappointed in themselves, in their behavior, in
failing to achieve their goals. So are you saying you’ll be more disappointed
if you try something and fail than if you don’t try at all? Aren’t you
disappointed now for not persisting until you succeed? Even if you only achieve
half (or a third or an eighth) of what you want, won’t you be proud of yourself
for trying? Maybe the problem is thinking not incrementally, but in
all-or-nothing terms.

Read More Disappointment

My message board members (
have once again raised an interesting issue, and I thank them for keeping my
head well stocked with bloggable subjects. The topic this time is the
difference between dieting and healthy or nutritious eating. How can you
distinguish them? How can you make healthy food choices most of the time and
not feel as if you’re on a restrictive diet?

Read More Dieting versus Healthy Eating

I was reading a novel in which one of the characters (a
female psychiatrist) wonders if she should be humiliated or angry about her husband
taking up with another woman, and started thinking about these alternative
reactions. Her confusion reminded me of the uncertainty some overweight clients
feel when people comment on their size. In that split second after a remark, it
may be hard not to feel overwhelmed with shame, but I’m here to tell you that
you can choose a far more effective response.

Read More Humiliation or Anger?

I hear clients say, “I can’t bear to think about it”
or “I couldn’t bear to do that,” but I don’t always know what the word
means. Will they fall down dead, emulsify on the spot, go catatonic? When you
think or say those words to yourself, what exactly is it that you fear will
happen? The fact is, telling yourself that you can’t bear something makes it
more than likely that you won’t be able to. Conversely, reminding yourself that
you’re capable of bearing anything that comes your way ensures that
you’ll be able to ride it through.

Read More What You Can’t Bear

My friend is writing a story for a national magazine about the social aspect of eating disorders and she's looking for young women who suffered from an ED or disordered eating WHILE their friend was suffering from one too—and their ED was influenced or made worse by their friends' ED in some way. Maybe you and your friend were diet buddies who got carried away. Maybe you were always competitive about everything and when one…

Read More National Magazine Story Looking for Participants