A post on my message board (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/foodandfeelings)
a few months ago included the words, “Some of us are broken.” I hear often from
clients that they’re “broken”—read as not fixable. However, there is no such
thing as a totally “broken” person or a totally “fixed” one. This polarization
is an example of unhealthy, all-or-nothing thinking that perpetuates the idea
that anyone is wholly defective or entirely perfect. Needless to say, broken is
not a good way to think of yourself.

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April 27, 2010 was designated as "Lobby Day" for the Eating Disorders Coalition.  On Tuesday, approximately 100 people from 27 states ascended on Washington, D.C. to lobby their Congressmen and Senators to pass H.R. 1193, the F.R.E.E.D. (Federal Response to Eliminate Eating Disorders) Act.   F.R.E.E.D. was introduced into the House by Rep. Patrick Kennedy of Rhode Island on February 25, 2009.  The Senate version of this bill was introduced on April 26, 2010 by…

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I don’t know about you, but I have mixed feelings about
including nutritional information on menus. People all over the world manage to
be “normal”—even healthy—eaters without knowing precisely how many
calories, salt, or fat grams food contains, so why can’t Americans? On the
other hand, reading nutritional information alongside menu selections might be
just what is needed to break through denial and help folks make better choices.
At any rate, here are preliminary results of research on the subject. 

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Lots of unwanted eating comes from the stress of dealing
with parents who don’t respect our boundaries and who are more focused on their
needs than ours. As we mature, the idea is to “separate” from them emotionally,
that is, to know that you exist for you and not for them. No matter what
your adult age, when parents try to control you, it’s not surprising that you
turn to food for comfort. Here is some excellent advice on the subject, not
from me, but from a therapist whose blog I was fortunate to read. His wisdom is
so right on, I thought I’d give you his words rather than mine.

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There's an article by Geneen Roth in the May issue of Redbook magazine. I was so struck by what she had to say that I thought I would reproduce some of the excerpts here. However, I recommend that you read the entire article. "I've been helping women with their food issues for many years…I started doing it because I was utterly tortured by my relationship with food and believed that if I got thin, my…

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This blog topic comes from a discussion with a client who was
often highly critical about her body and overeating and who feared
that if she showed herself “compassion” for making mistakes with food and “accepted” her weight, she wouldn’t try
to change. Perhaps you too fall back on a sharp tongue lashing or a swift kick
in the butt for motivation, rather than non-judgmentally exploring your
behavior and figuring out how to do better next time. This client decided,
instead, to show herself mercy, a term filled with benevolence, self-love, kindness
and forgiveness.

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 “Western culture says that the way to achieve happiness is to change our external environment to fit our wishes. But this strategy doesn’t work. In every life, pleasure and pain, gain and loss, praise and blame keep showing up, no matter how hard we struggle to have only pleasure, gain and praise.  Buddhist psychology offers a different approach to happiness, teaching that states of consciousness are far more crucial than outer circumstances.” Eating disorders can…

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