Sometimes research results really boggle the mind. Take a recent study in the Journal of Science on satiation and cravings, a subject near and dear to the hearts and minds of disregulated eaters. It turns out that distracting yourself from thinking about challenging foods may be exactly what you don’t want to do to avoid unwanted eating or overeating.

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What is it about being alone that frightens women so? I often hear them—married or partnered friends or clients—expressing great angst about being on their own. Their fear may keep them with people they don’t love and even actively dislike and could propel them to eat for comfort or pleasure. If you share this fear, it’s important to know exactly what you mean by it—to overcome it and stand on your own two feet.

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Giving credit where credit is due, the idea for this blog—letting go of shame from the past—came from a discussion on my Food and Feelings message board ( I’m talking about still feeling overwhelming distress thinking about something you did ages ago. Maybe you used to drink a lot or do drugs, were wildly indiscriminate in your sexual partners, were a real goof off or a prima donna, or took advantage of friends and family.

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  The holiday season for those with eating disorders or in recovery can be a stressful time.  There are often considerations of travel, finances and shopping, family, continuing work obligations, health and food.  The holidays often center around food; which can be particularly stressful.  Aberrations in eating can occur for those who have been stable in recovery, including both overeating and restriction of food.  There may also be a sense a loss felt by those…

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A Monte Nido Alum brought this idea of living Christmas trees to our attention. This concept resonated with us as it illustrates what we teach. The holidays, although meant to be a time of togetherness, peace and love, often turn into times of loneliness, busyness and stress. It is during these times, more than ever, that one must slow down, tune in and practice mindfulness. It is a time for gratitude and giving – to…

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It’s heartening to see my perceptions from 30 years of working with troubled eaters validated once in a while. This is the case with a recent article in Psychotherapy Networker entitled “As the Twig Is Bent: Understanding the health implications of early life trauma” by Mary Sykes Wylie. The article discusses the correlation between early trauma and health issues, including some related to obesity.

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Numerous troubled eaters I’ve counseled grew up in alcoholic families. By that I mean that at least one—and sometimes both—of their parents had serious problems with alcohol. Being raised in such a household has a profound negative impact on the development of a child and may affect, among other things, her relationship with food.

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