Do you look at people and too often see someone better than yourself? Do you imagine or envy their “perfect” life? This process, called idealization, can contribute to poor self-esteem which makes you vulnerable to not taking care of yourself—and to abusing food. Letting go of idealizing can help you empower yourself and treat yourself better.

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Ever wonder why you love to muse about a future when you’ll be thin/happy/a “normal” eater/successful/popular/etc.? Or why much of your time is spent contemplating tomorrow rather than living in today? Science can explain why you do this.

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You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for as long as you live. How you take care of it or fail to take care of it can make enormous difference in the quality of your life. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time school called Life. Each day, you will be presented with opportunities to learn what you need to know. The…

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Recently, while talking with a client about people-pleasing, she mentioned the frequent urge to feel what others feel or, at least, not to let people know that what she experiences seems different than what they are experiencing. I hear this a great deal from disregulated eaters, this desire to not appear emotionally different from others.

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Rarely does a week go by when I don’t hear about the need for rewards. Sometimes the subject comes from the media hawking a product. More often, I’m listening to a friend, client, or message board member talking about the need to reward herself.

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