There was a time – there are still times – when I read or hear or think this statement and my reaction is less than, um, proud. The truth is, I spent many many years being ohhhhhh soooooo hard on myself. I was like my own in-house drill sergeant, barking out orders in the unkindest tone possible, dispensing criticism as if I had an unlimited supply (back then I did)….all of which meant that being…

Read More You Have Every Right to be Proud of YOU

Eating disorder therapists have
long recognized the correlation between female clients who were sexually or
physically abused having problems with food. I suspect there might be
a correlation for men and even one for emotional abuse as well. Science is only
beginning to understand the magnitude of stressing our nervous systems early on.

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Today marks the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr.'s iconinc speech from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial. Reverend King passionately and poetically called for an end to racism in the United States. Referencing the Declaration of Independence, the Emancipation Proclamation and the United States Constitution he articulated his dream of an America in which people are "not judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." In honor…

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We all talk about “the past,”
whether we’re reminiscing about events that happened decades ago or relating an
incident that occurred yesterday. I have no quarrel with talking about what has
already happened—as long as you know why you’re doing it. Too often, however, I
hear discussions about childhoods and personal history that make me wonder what
their purpose is. Why do you talk
about “the past”?

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A keynote speech on body image at the annual conference of Australia’s peak body for eating disorder professionals left me wondering, ‘are we on the right track?’ If we are, which deserves most focus, the body image or the eating disorder? No offence to the vibrant speaker, UK psychoanalyst Dr Susie Orbach, who describes herself as ‘a clinician talking politics’, but eating disorders are biologically-based brain disorders. This explanation makes sense to me. I am not a clinician.…

Read More Body image and eating disorders – on the same track?

If you’re overweight or obese, you
may have had the experience of not getting the attention you need at medical
visits. A recent Journal of Academic
study confirms why (Time/Health
and Family
online, “Medical students may already be biased against obese
patients” by Alexandra Sifferlin, 5/24/13). Yes, there’s bias against you, but
that’s no excuse for not getting the medical care you require and deserve.

Read More Doctors’ Bias Against Obese Confirmed

Grief sucks. Who amongst us wants to cry, to rage, to bargain, to accept the unacceptable…good lord, anything but that! And yet grieving is necessary or recovery is simply not going to happen. Whatever happened in our past that made the eating disordered thoughts and behaviors feel necessary for our survival hurt us very much. It brought out our primal fear, and we learned to cling to the eating disorder – instead of to ourselves…

Read More The Five (Oh So Necessary) Stages of Grief

Disregulated eaters often are not
merely unhappy with their eating but with their lives. In fact, sometimes this
every day dissatisfaction is what drives them to eat. In order to have a
satisfying life, you must know your values—What means a great deal to you? What
do you love above all else? What activities bring you the most happiest? 

Read More What Means the Most to You?

I love good fiction, but when it
comes to eating and food, give me the unvarnished truth every time. Here are
some surprising facts on the subject from the Nutrition Action Newsletter (June, 2013). At least they’re
considered true for now, but who knows what will be when the next batch of scientific
studies come along.

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