It has been nearly 43 years now, and in my ongoing debate with myself, I still have not decided whether a) life keeps handing me unfairly difficult challenges or b) I am just too high strung. Or both. This is probably why I find myself writing about anxiety a lot (such as in this month's Good News). But looking back over my almost 43 years to date, I can also clearly see I have successfully survived…

Read More You Can Do It – Whatever “It” Is

I was Skyping with a client who mentioned feeling awful about herself because she was having difficulty in a college math class. Many people I treat have a similar reaction—not to math, but to letting not doing well in an activity sour their view of themselves. And, of course, feeling negatively about themselves often primes them for a binge.

Read More No Need to be Perfect to be Lovable

Recently a mom called me about her 6-year old son, Ben, who was so picky that he was eating less than 5 different foods. Some days Ben refused to eat at all. Ben had always been a picky eater, his mother told me, but now his pickiness seemed to be getting worse and was causing a lot of stress at the dinner table. Mom was quite certain that her son didn’t have an eating disorder…

Read More Is Picky Eating the Newest Eating Disorder?

Another word about gratitude from one of staff members…   This Thanksgiving — Be Grateful But Don't Over Do It.   Recently I was reading an article about the work of Dr Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading researcher on happiness at University of California, Riverside. Dr Lyubomirsky's work looks at the contributing factors to an individual's happiness including gratitude.  On a day like Thanksgiving, fraught with food, family and fear, I think its important to consider gratitude…

Read More The Gratitude Balance

A while ago I had a heartening discussion with a client who was finally able to keep her self-care consistent and was amazed at the difference it made in her eating and her life. Here are a few ideas we came up with that underlie her transformation, along with several metaphors that helped in maintaining her stability and consistency.

Read More Stability and Self-care

I was chagrined to read a blurb in the August/September 2013 copy of the AARP Magazine about “laziness.” I recognize that folks have differing motivations and mixed feelings about being active, but I have always stood firmly against using the negative term “lazy” regarding people who don’t take care of their bodies. And I still do.

Read More A Lazy Gene–Say It Ain’t So

I am not a recovery rockstar. I am just an ordinary human being. I have no special powers, special courage, special perseverance, or special insight into Ed or recovery that you don't also have. I just never gave up fighting Ed until I won. Which means that if you don't give up, you too will one day find yourself writing, speaking, or typing these words to someone who really needs to hear them: "If I…

Read More What If….You Were Actually RECOVERED?

Yes you are. Yes I am. Yes we are. And we can talk all day about how life never hands us a challenge we can't handle, we are the equal of any problem that presents itself to us, etc etc etc….in fact Ed would really like to talk about it all day. That way we never get around to DOING anything about it. Ed knows that if he can get us to expend all of…

Read More You Truly are Strong Enough

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, we will be sharing some thoughts on gratitude by various staff members. Enjoy this new way to practice your ABC's.     Gratitude ABC's…A gift given to me by a famous MN graduate who credits AA as its origin…..It is amazing!!   If you are like me,  you lay your head on your pillow and can't quite figure out how to turn off the chit chat in your head, whether it…

Read More The ABC’s of Gratitude