As I’ve written before, at the root of many troubled eaters’ food problems is the issue of not feeling deserving of health, happiness, success, etc. They are conflicted about whether or not they’re deserving of good things in life and, hence, behave sometimes as if they are and other times as if they aren’t. Let’s get this straight once and for all: everyone is deserving and you are no exception.

Read More One More Time on Feeling Deserving

I hesitate writing about some of the biology related to eating and weight because I don’t want readers to feel that their biology is fixed and a done deal. There are genetic and metabolic factors which strongly influence appetite and body size, but lifestyle still plays a large role in both. I blog about biology because I want readers to be well informed.

Read More Appetite and the Brain

I turned 43 this month. Every year right around this time I do an "annual yearly review." I think through what I've learned, what I haven't learned, where I've made progress, where I haven't yet made progress – all that good stuff. In this year's process, it occurred me that I have changed my mind a tremendous number of times in the last 43 years. For instance, at first I was sure I didn't have…

Read More You Absolutely CAN Change Your Mind

If you got injured, put a bandage over the injury, and went to the doctor, would the doctor examine the band-aid to figure out how to help you heal? Of course not. Your doctor would peel back the bandage to examine the injury underneath before figuring out how to treat it. Triggers are like band-aids. They are nothing more than symptoms of a deeper underlying issue. Examining our triggers may be helpful in the short…

Read More Triggers: A Hint to Proceed…but With Caution

A client and I had a great session brainstorming myths about family, stemming from her realization that, though she binges far less than she used to, the times she does binge are often around holidays and family gatherings. If she could clear up the myths she’s been believing, she thought, she might be able to stop bingeing completely.

Read More Myths About Family

A Christmas gift of a journal when I was 11 years old began a lifetime love of journaling. We bonded immediately and the journal became my best friend. Writing a journal helped me to not only survive but also to recover from my eating disorder. So it is, that every December, I feel excited at the prospect of choosing a new journal for the coming year. The size, the feel and look of the cover, the smell of the pages, their quality – and the ultimate summing up, ‘is this the book I want to be my pal for the coming year?’ Choosing a journal is really, really special.

Read More The journal – an ally in eating disorder recovery

You have. But Ed hasn't. You find yourself eminently acceptable, and would probably be perfectly fine with who and how you are. But there is this little (and sometimes big) voice that keeps booming out at you when you least expect it, criticizing you to within an inch of your sanity, and startling you into a renewed and total dissatisfaction with yourself. This voice – Ed's voice – tells you that you haven't accepted yourself.…

Read More What if You Just Stopped Listening to ED?

Sometimes I think I have more discussions with clients about weight than about eating. They tell me what happens when they weigh themselves, ask how often they should hop on the scale, explain that they want to stop but can’t help themselves, and just plain can’t seem to get weight off their minds. Does this sound like you?

Read More Weight Loss Comes at the End of a Process

Clients keep teaching me more and more about dysfunctional eating. For instance, that it’s not really food that compulsive or emotional eaters want but the idea of what they wish/hope/perceive food will bring them. This is a crucial distinction.

Read More The Idea of Food