Our mind can be our greatest ally. But first we have to stop treating it like the enemy. For most of us, we can hear the mind grind its gears in the morning, limbering and warming up, preparing for another day of vigorous thinking. Where our mind thinks, we often unconsciously follow. Little wonder that our body follows too….growing weaker as our mind becomes stronger. This is all the proof we need that the inverse…

Read More Choosing One Goal

Ed sure does enjoy your company. He enjoys it so much that he does his best to make sure you will never have any time to enjoy your own company. While Ed might not like it when you start to demand more time away from him so you can hang out with yourself, it is necessary if you ever want to increase your power to change your life and get Ed OUT of it. So…

Read More Sneaking Away from Your Eating Disorder 101

Have you? To date, are you stlil here? Despite all the pain, all the torment, all the fear, all the trauma, all the hopelessness, all the depression, all the cruel sadness….are you still reading these words? Are you still breathing? Still taking in letters…formed into words….here on the page….? Then you have survived. For one more second, for one more moment, for one more day, you. are. still. here. That counts for something. That matters.…

Read More Why Your Eating Disorder is Scared of You

Most of my clients over the decades have had high anxiety which has, in part, driven them to non-hunger eating. While I believe that there’s a genetic, neurobiological component to anxiety, I also know that it’s triggered by irrational beliefs that escalate, rather than de-escalate, distress and stress. Here’s a way out of anxious moments.

Read More Feeling Anxious versus Feeling Fine

So who are "you"? Are you Ed? Are you what you do? Are you what you don't do? Are you who you think you are? Are you your parents, your family, your friends, your goals, your desires, your disappointments, your regrets? Who ARE you? An eating disorder is a gift. It is a chance to answer this question – the question that every single human being at one time or another asks, but so few…

Read More Who Are You?

Are you someone who views the world as a hostile place and is full of resentments? If so, you might be setting yourself up for unnecessary internal distress. And you know where that might lead you—to making a beeline for the cookie jar!

Read More Are You Hung Up on Resentment?

Although many of you undoubtedly engage in non-hunger eating when you’re in a positive (aka good) mood, it’s more likely that you act on your cravings when you’re in a negative (aka bad) mood. So says Robert E. Thayer, Ph.D. in his book CALM ENERGY: HOW PEOPLE REGULATE MOOD WITH FOOD AND EXERCISE (2001, Oxford University Press, NY). To learn more about his research, read on.

Read More How Mood Affects Eating

Yup. I said STRENGTH. How can admitting weakness possibly give you access to strength? Think about it. Think some more. Looking back on my own recovery journey, I remember the moment when I realized, with an incredibly weak-in-the-knees sinking feeling, that what I was doing to protect and take care of myself (listening to Ed) simply wasn't working. At first, all I felt was my weakness. Oh man – I hadn't done it right! I…

Read More Strength. And You.