Control is a major issue for us all. We want to control our environment and people’s behaviors to help us survive and thrive. Although we have little control over either when we are children, we become more empowered as we mature. But, fact is, we will never have complete power over our lives, even as adults, and this is a crucial fact to remember so that we don’t keep questing after something that is unattainable.…

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I treat many clients who are successful and look great from the outside—well put together and functioning at a high level—but feel like a total and utter mess inside. They are well liked and appear to handle life superbly, while in reality they are anxious much of the time and often even depressed. One of the ways they manage their well protected, hidden inner turmoil is through mindless eating. To a person, these clients had…

Read More How Looking Good on the Outside and Falling Apart on the Inside May Lead to Mindless Eating

The Holidays have arrived. I remember when I loved that fall feeling in the air as Halloween was approaching. Then my eating disorder came and caused me to fear Halloween because, well…candy was a huge part of the equation.  And that was just the beginning, next came Thanksgiving, meaning tons and tons of food and having to eat in front of people with no excuses accepted. All the upcoming deserts haunted me for days before…

Read More Making the Holidays Meaningful When Suffering from an Eating Disorder

When it gets difficult to believe that recovery is possible for you, what do you do? Do you return to Ed, who will reliably give you confirmation – and his own patented brand of "comfort"? Do you try to push the feelings away, ignoring your fears until they are so loud and insistent that you can think of nothing else? Or do you seek out the company of those who have in fact recovered, and…

Read More Rekindling Your Own Belief in Recovery

It can be enjoyable to visit and stay with friends and relatives as well as for them to be guests in your home. However, whether you’re host or guest, these events may disrupt your activity schedule—but only if you let them. If you’re determined to take care of yourself because you wouldn’t have it any other way, this situation is no problem at all. Years ago, I got together with old friends for a few…

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I don’t usually blog about weight, but here’s some great advice for holiday eating and sanity from an article entitled, “Can you enjoy the season without weight gain?” by Gabriella Boston (Sarasota Herald-Tribune, 12/16/15, 13E). No preaching, I promise! “It’s better to eat normally during the day [of a cocktail party] and not go to the party starving,” says Anne Mauney, RD, “adding that it’s hard to “slow down and eat mindfully when you’re starving.”…

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We all know how hard it can be for a patient with an eating disorder to find the motivation to enter and stick with treatment. (Because I work in a hospital setting, I use the word “patient” rather than client.) Whether you suffer from an eating disorder yourself, are a loved one of someone who has one, or are a clinician, it’s clear that sustaining motivation is one of the greatest challenges. So many of my patients—brilliant…

Read More How Can A Greater Understanding of Medical Complications of Eating Disorders Help Patients Find Motivation to Recover?

You notice I say "can be"…..not that it automatically will be, or ever is. I say this because the experience you have of being mentored depends entirely on who your mentor is.  As Nate, Andie's long-suffering boyfriend in "The Devil Wears Prada" movie, says to her when her evil boss, Miranda, calls to interrupt their evening yet again, "Just in case you're wondering, the person whose calls you always take is the relationship you are…

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Please know that you’re not crazy if you eat when you’re upset. Food does make us feel better for a number of reasons, among which is that it lifts our mood. However, as you know, it also may make your mood plummet after you’ve eaten (heavily of fat or sugar) or overeaten. Here are some insights on the subject from “Mood, food, and obesity” by Minati Singh (Frontiers in Psychology, 9/1/14, doi: 10.3389/pfsyg.2014.00925). First off,…

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