“All those years of darkness can make a person blind.” I’m Changing by Jennifer Hudson “Why are you crying?” she asked, finally breaking the awkward silence that filled the space between her just having placed her soul in the middle of the table of our window seat at a quaint Starbucks outside Baltimore and my misguided search for “right words” in response. “I’m not entirely sure,” I replied. “Maybe it’s your willingness to be so…

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A while back I was talking with a client about how to deal with her narcissistic father and why she kept attracting narcissistic people in her life. This was after a session with a client who commented about how her narcissistic mother had shaped her obsession with pleasing people rather than pleasing herself. When I stopped to think about it, I figured that about 90% of my clients over the decades have had at least…

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In recovery as in life we always have at least two choices (often we have more than two). We can choose who to hang out with. We can choose who to listen to. We can choose who leads us…and who follows. We have a far greater power both to choose and to influence the choices of others than we realize. This also means we often don't give our own power to choose, and to assist…

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Ed will try every trick in the book to get back inside your head. He will speak to you through your favorite recovery books, telling them why the stories of others don't apply to you. He will make the recovered mentors and leaders in your life look like they stand a million miles away from you, and that you will never be able to do what they have done. But just as in the wrong…

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