The connection we offer the most time and attention to is the one that will be the strongest. I will say that again. The connection we offer the most time and attention is the one that will be the strongest. If we give most of our day, our mind, our body and our habits to Ed, then guess which connection we are strengthening? If, however, we keep ourselves continually occupied in recovery-focused activities, whether it…

Read More The Connection We Choose Will be the Strongest

What we don't notice might as well not be real. If we want to hang on to our recovery story – our RECOVERY story – we must REMEMBER. We simply must remember. Ed will continually be filling your head with other stories – stories that Ed assures you is true, stories that make you out to be small, powerless, and stuck doing Ed's bidding forever. If you don't like that story, then keep telling the…

Read More Who is the Star of Your Story?

Whether you see it or believe it or not on a daily basis, just the fact that you are paying attention to the recovery stories of others and dreaming of one day telling your own speaks volumes about the good company you are keeping. Every person who is a part of the recovery community, every recovering and recovered person who shares time and wisdom with those new to recovery and those who have been in…

Read More Cultivating Good Company (and Why This Doesn’t Include Ed)

There is not one single right time to add a mentor to your support team. A mentor is not a substitute or replacement for professional treatment. But a mentor can offer a perspective on eating disorders and recovery that is valuable and unique, and in this way can provide much needed encouragement and support. Some of you may never want or need to add a mentor to your support team, maybe because someone on your…

Read More How to Know You Are Ready for a Mentor

Thinking about and focusing on Ed is not the same as thinking about and focusing on your recovery. You may already know this – it sure sounds simple enough, doesn't it! But are you practicing what you know? Ed is very tricky. Ed has plenty of practice in getting us to think we are focusing on recovery, when in reality we are focusing on Ed. If you are unsure about whether you are focusing on…

Read More How Changing Your Focus Changes Everything

Whether or not you feel drawn towards mentoring in the specific form of matching a recovered person with a recovering person for extra support, the fact remains that the more support you have on your "Pro Recovery Team", the fewer folks there are to join "Team Ed". And when it comes to saving your own life, you want the All Stars on your team. You want the best of the best – and the most…

Read More Attracting the All Stars

Beating Ana Quote: I have the kind of relationship with myself that allows for me to explore any topic safely, completely, honestly, and courageously. I hold nothing back from myself—oh, no, not anymore. Ed often tells us that we can’t trust ourselves. It is one of his specialities. Unfortunately, we as often believe him, and we continue to trust Ed over our own selves. We listen to Ed before we pay attention to our intuition,…

Read More Getting to Know the Real You

When I first began my recovery journey, I felt so hopeless. I had NO IDEA that someday I would found the world's first mentoring organization. Thank goodness. I needed all of my energy for the hard fight ahead of me. I didn't need to focus at that point on helping others, although like most eating disordered folks, I had a kind heart which spoke of a natural desire to be of service. On MentorCONNECT, we…

Read More How are You Spending Your Time and Energy?

What we focus on we see more of. Over time, we may see only that and nothing else. If we are not happy living life as we are experiencing it, then we may either surround ourselves with other people who are unhappy, or we may decide to invite people who are happy with their lives into our lives to help us make changes. Here, the goal in inviting a life makeover expert (aka a mentor)…

Read More How a Mentor Can Help

Sometimes we think we can get by with half measures. And sometimes we think we have to earn a gold star on everything, all at once, and right away. At either extreme, what we will find is Ed. Patiently waiting. Ed is VERY patient. This is because he knows what the grand prize is – us – and he is quite willing to do whatever it takes to win our life for himself. Are we?…

Read More What “Doing What It Takes” Really Means