My own mentor has often reminded that when I set a new intention to cultivate a new practice or mindset, what happens next is that everything that is unlike my new goal gets rooted out. And before it goes, I have to endure the unpleasantness of seeing it all parading before me on its way out the door. So, for instance, if I set a goal to practice humility, what I first have to experience…

Read More Letting What You Don’t Need Go

This is my wish for each of you, yes. But what is YOUR wish for you? More important than what your parents want for you, what your significant other wants for you, what your treatment team wants for you, what your best friend wants for you, is what you want for you. What you want – what you truly, deeply and fully want – will drive what you let in. The more you can hone…

Read More What You Want Determines What You Let In

Please understand – when I say "together, we…" I am not talking about you and Ed. I am talking about you and YOU. While it is of course extremely important that you have supportive others on your recovery team (including professionals and loved ones), and you deserve support from others, all the support in the world will not help you make one iota of recovery progress if you are against yourself. You have to learn…

Read More Empowering “Team You”

The connection we offer the most time and attention to is the one that will be the strongest. I will say that again. The connection we offer the most time and attention is the one that will be the strongest. If we give most of our day, our mind, our body and our habits to Ed, then guess which connection we are strengthening? If, however, we keep ourselves continually occupied in recovery-focused activities, whether it…

Read More The Connection We Choose Will be the Strongest

What we don't notice might as well not be real. If we want to hang on to our recovery story – our RECOVERY story – we must REMEMBER. We simply must remember. Ed will continually be filling your head with other stories – stories that Ed assures you is true, stories that make you out to be small, powerless, and stuck doing Ed's bidding forever. If you don't like that story, then keep telling the…

Read More Who is the Star of Your Story?

Whether you see it or believe it or not on a daily basis, just the fact that you are paying attention to the recovery stories of others and dreaming of one day telling your own speaks volumes about the good company you are keeping. Every person who is a part of the recovery community, every recovering and recovered person who shares time and wisdom with those new to recovery and those who have been in…

Read More Cultivating Good Company (and Why This Doesn’t Include Ed)

There is not one single right time to add a mentor to your support team. A mentor is not a substitute or replacement for professional treatment. But a mentor can offer a perspective on eating disorders and recovery that is valuable and unique, and in this way can provide much needed encouragement and support. Some of you may never want or need to add a mentor to your support team, maybe because someone on your…

Read More How to Know You Are Ready for a Mentor

Thinking about and focusing on Ed is not the same as thinking about and focusing on your recovery. You may already know this – it sure sounds simple enough, doesn't it! But are you practicing what you know? Ed is very tricky. Ed has plenty of practice in getting us to think we are focusing on recovery, when in reality we are focusing on Ed. If you are unsure about whether you are focusing on…

Read More How Changing Your Focus Changes Everything

Whether or not you feel drawn towards mentoring in the specific form of matching a recovered person with a recovering person for extra support, the fact remains that the more support you have on your "Pro Recovery Team", the fewer folks there are to join "Team Ed". And when it comes to saving your own life, you want the All Stars on your team. You want the best of the best – and the most…

Read More Attracting the All Stars

Beating Ana Quote: I have the kind of relationship with myself that allows for me to explore any topic safely, completely, honestly, and courageously. I hold nothing back from myself—oh, no, not anymore. Ed often tells us that we can’t trust ourselves. It is one of his specialities. Unfortunately, we as often believe him, and we continue to trust Ed over our own selves. We listen to Ed before we pay attention to our intuition,…

Read More Getting to Know the Real You