Rituals are an important part of living a meaningful life. Rituals always remind me that some things are sacred, important, and I need to do them for the care of my soul. As humans we have lost many of our rituals that used to keep us aware and connected to nature, like the changing of the seasons, the new or full moon, the winter solstice, and menstrual ceremonies. I believe that most humans miss ritual,…

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The best rewards I get in my work come when my clients give it back to me. After group the other night a client of mine A.A. wrote me about choice, about changing herself, about changing the world. She changes me…. “There’s this way in which human beings desire to be a part of something bigger. It is why we, as humans, are so vulnerable to societal pressures, fashion trends, or advertisements. We are programmed…

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The week in group I talked about a tipping point that is coming: A tipping point where there are enough of us who are recovered from eating disorders that we will make a difference in the world to come We don’t diet, we don’t talk about our bodies or identify our worth there in, we recognize the madness of image over substance and it stops with us and with all those we can influence It is…

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Learning how to pay attention in a new way will re-establish the sacredness of even ordinary things and bring enchantment to your life.  To help you understand what we mean, think of a familiar tree. Now imagine this tree is the only one left in the world.  Immediately the tree takes on a new significance even though nothing about the tree itself is different. The tree’s importance and value would increase significantly and it would…

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Christmas music playing in every store. The smell of cider and spruce in the air. Giddy children sitting on Santa's lap. Lights, snowflakes and decorations every where. The spirit of the season is hard to miss. But many people do. Hustle and bustle become stress and strife. Jack frost nipping becomes bitter cold. Wish lists become oppressive to-do lists. The most wonderful time of the year becomes the most dreaded. We must remember to count…

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Another word about gratitude from one of staff members…   This Thanksgiving — Be Grateful But Don't Over Do It.   Recently I was reading an article about the work of Dr Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading researcher on happiness at University of California, Riverside. Dr Lyubomirsky's work looks at the contributing factors to an individual's happiness including gratitude.  On a day like Thanksgiving, fraught with food, family and fear, I think its important to consider gratitude…

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In the spirit of Thanksgiving, we will be sharing some thoughts on gratitude by various staff members. Enjoy this new way to practice your ABC's.     Gratitude ABC's…A gift given to me by a famous MN graduate who credits AA as its origin…..It is amazing!!   If you are like me,  you lay your head on your pillow and can't quite figure out how to turn off the chit chat in your head, whether it…

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Why Having Recovered Staff is Important (adapted from, “Been There, Done That”, by Criag Johnson and Carolyn Costin, 2008)   Even though some of my best therapists have never had an eating disorder, there are advantages to having at least some staff members who are “recovered” from an eating disorder. It is not recovery alone that I’m drawn to, as I have interviewed many people with an eating disorder history whom I did not hire. …

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Today marks the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr.'s iconinc speech from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial. Reverend King passionately and poetically called for an end to racism in the United States. Referencing the Declaration of Independence, the Emancipation Proclamation and the United States Constitution he articulated his dream of an America in which people are "not judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." In honor…

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I came across a blog, recommended by a friend, and through this blog stumbled upon another blog. Now I have plenty of reading to keep me busy. And a lot of inspirational information to keep me engaged. These two blogs were talking about the concept of Happier Hours. These started as a series of gatherings hosted by author Aidan Donnelley Rowley centered aournd female authors whose work inspires growth. The idea being that we can…

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