Beating Ana Quote: But ultimately, what we are really attempting to do is a feat of the highest order—to give up the need for the addictive behaviors themselves. This takes time. Patience. Self-effort. Some measure of grace toward ourselves, and also from others who have stood in our shoes and can remind us that we are not alone in how we feel or in the enormity of our task. As you reach for any big…

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Beating Ana Quote: I am grateful for my past, because it is my greatest teacher—in remembrance of what hasn’t worked before, I am freed to discover what will work now, and I courageously employ these new strategies with great enjoyment and success. The past can be such a good friend to us – if we will allow it. The past is so helpful, too, because it stores up all the memories and experiences that we…

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Beating Ana Quote: I have always loved the scientific principle that nature abhors a vacuum. I find comfort in thinking that, before we can be filled up with good things, we must first create space in our lives for the good we desire to pour in. In my family, I am the certified “neatnik”. In other words, I am happier, think more clearly and simply feel better when the place I am in is neat.…

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Beating Ana Quote: Now, it is time to grieve, to acknowledge the good with the bad, to be thankful for what this experience has taught me, and to face my eating disorder with profound respect as I say good-bye. Good-bye, ED. Thank you for what you have taught me about life, other people, and me. I am the better for it. Some of the most beloved movies of all time feature characters with big dreams…

Read More Dreaming of a World Without Ed in It

Boy, sometimes it is just so hard to say those three little words – I'm not okay. But sometimes it is the only thing that works. When we acknowledge that a problem exists, honesty is the natural result. When we are honest, we can respect ourselves. When we can look ourselves in our own eye with respect, we feel a newfound burst of inner strength. Surprised by this inner strength, we find that we all…

Read More Saying Those Three Little Words (“I’m Not Okay”)

One of the first major steps I took in my own recovery process was to realize that the eating disorder definitely had served a purpose in my life to date. "Ed" provided me with a place to retreat to when life felt overwhelming (which was basically all the time at that time in my life). Ed also consumed all of my time and energy so I had an excuse to not go for my dreams…

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Beating Ana Quote: But, more importantly, I know that I have already achieved great things because—I survived.
I survived myself.
 I survived others’ pain.
I survived this media-saturated society we live in with body, mind, heart, and soul stubbornly intact. There is no way you will ever get kudos from Ed on surviving Ed. You might receive congratulations from Ed on following Ed’s rules, carrying out Ed’s instructions down to the letter, obeying Ed in all things…

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Beating Ana Quote: As you give yourself permission to be in close relationships with people you care about in whatever way that works for each of you, you enable yourself to move closer to your ultimate goal of replacing your dependence on the eating disorder with the interdependence of real human relationships! Whether you believe it or not at the moment, you already have permission to say “Adios, Ed” and choose new friends. You also…

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