Boy, sometimes it is just so hard to say those three little words – I'm not okay. But sometimes it is the only thing that works. When we acknowledge that a problem exists, honesty is the natural result. When we are honest, we can respect ourselves. When we can look ourselves in our own eye with respect, we feel a newfound burst of inner strength. Surprised by this inner strength, we find that we all…

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One of the first major steps I took in my own recovery process was to realize that the eating disorder definitely had served a purpose in my life to date. "Ed" provided me with a place to retreat to when life felt overwhelming (which was basically all the time at that time in my life). Ed also consumed all of my time and energy so I had an excuse to not go for my dreams…

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Beating Ana Quote: But, more importantly, I know that I have already achieved great things because—I survived.
I survived myself.
 I survived others’ pain.
I survived this media-saturated society we live in with body, mind, heart, and soul stubbornly intact. There is no way you will ever get kudos from Ed on surviving Ed. You might receive congratulations from Ed on following Ed’s rules, carrying out Ed’s instructions down to the letter, obeying Ed in all things…

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Beating Ana Quote: As you give yourself permission to be in close relationships with people you care about in whatever way that works for each of you, you enable yourself to move closer to your ultimate goal of replacing your dependence on the eating disorder with the interdependence of real human relationships! Whether you believe it or not at the moment, you already have permission to say “Adios, Ed” and choose new friends. You also…

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While having a mentor on your support team can be an immeasurable blessing, there is nothing in your life that Ed will not try to use against you to block your recovery goals. If you find that Ed is sneakily hinting that a mentor might be a good substitute for that pesky dietitian who keeps giving you meal plans he doesn’t agree with, or egging you on to set up a competition between your mentor…

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Beating Ana Quote: By picking up this book [Beating Ana], proactively practicing the techniques in each chapter, seeking out mentors in your own community, and in time becoming a mentor yourself to someone in need, you are doing your part. You are being your own agent for change, and the ripple effect is incalculably precious and powerful not just in your own life, but in the lives of those who come behind you and seek…

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Quote: Ask yourself how you can, following the way of the samurai, discipline your mind to focus at each moment on your goals—and only your goals—for recovery. Beating Ana quote : Ed certainly is his own brand of samurai. Ed is only interested in one thing – making sure you never, EVER recover. Are you that focused? Are you that strong, that determined? Because surely if Ed can do it – if Ed can set…

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Beating Ana Quote: "But what
 I didn’t know, in the years when I was so ill and struggling for recovery, was that when I watched and rewatched each of the movies that I loved, I was actually taking strength as well from the characters’ courageous stories of triumph over personal adversity, and then using that strength to keep fighting my own battle for survival right alongside them. A motion picture mentoring process, if you will!"…

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Quote: You have to begin to decode the meaning of the messages the eating disorder voice is conveying to you; you have to crack its little code. You have to learn to speak its secret language. Like any plant, animal, or human, Ed too has a native language. Even if you and Ed have developed a little super-secret personal coded language to use in private conversations, Ed has always already had his own existing language,…

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Now you ramp it up and meet that challenge head on. So you are right where you need to be, learning the exact lessons you need to learn. Don’t shrink back. Stand up and fight! -Quote from Beating Ana When someone bullies you, it is very normal to feel scared. There is no reason to shame yourself for feeling a burst of fear when ED starts in on you. Any person – even the bravest…

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