During college March means several things:  midterms, green beer, March Madness and spring break. Weeks leading up to spring break the refrain during therapy sessions with my college-aged client’s in recovery sounds like this, “Everyone, literally everyone around me is on a diet and losing weight to ‘prepare’ for spring break.  And guess what I’m losing?  My f’ing mind! How am I supposed to gain, or even maintain my weight in a world where it’s ok for everyone else to lose weight?”

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Rituals are an important part of living a meaningful life. Rituals always remind me that some things are sacred, important, and I need to do them for the care of my soul. As humans we have lost many of our rituals that used to keep us aware and connected to nature, like the changing of the seasons, the new or full moon, the winter solstice, and menstrual ceremonies. I believe that most humans miss ritual,…

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The best rewards I get in my work come when my clients give it back to me. After group the other night a client of mine A.A. wrote me about choice, about changing herself, about changing the world. She changes me…. “There’s this way in which human beings desire to be a part of something bigger. It is why we, as humans, are so vulnerable to societal pressures, fashion trends, or advertisements. We are programmed…

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The week in group I talked about a tipping point that is coming: A tipping point where there are enough of us who are recovered from eating disorders that we will make a difference in the world to come We don’t diet, we don’t talk about our bodies or identify our worth there in, we recognize the madness of image over substance and it stops with us and with all those we can influence It is…

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Learning how to pay attention in a new way will re-establish the sacredness of even ordinary things and bring enchantment to your life.  To help you understand what we mean, think of a familiar tree. Now imagine this tree is the only one left in the world.  Immediately the tree takes on a new significance even though nothing about the tree itself is different. The tree’s importance and value would increase significantly and it would…

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Christmas music playing in every store. The smell of cider and spruce in the air. Giddy children sitting on Santa's lap. Lights, snowflakes and decorations every where. The spirit of the season is hard to miss. But many people do. Hustle and bustle become stress and strife. Jack frost nipping becomes bitter cold. Wish lists become oppressive to-do lists. The most wonderful time of the year becomes the most dreaded. We must remember to count…

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