When it comes to eating disorders, many of you know that I believe in being fully recovered. (Period.) When I read the piece below in an email last week, I immediately wanted to share it with others. Thanks for allowing me to do that, Karine!
I AM recovered.
Because I am free, I feel free and happy, but I want to do only the things that make me feel good. I look after myself. I don’t think about food, counting calories and thinking I can’t eat that or I am not ALLOWED to eat that! (I think the words we use are key as well in the recovery that was a very important step).
I enjoy it and I have pleasure when I eat, I listen to my body and to myself. I enjoy life, I have a social life, I go out, eat everywhere, anything that I want. I trust myself and my body to rebalance. I engage with people, I travel without planning ahead about food, I do my shopping very relaxed and even excited about the things I want to eat. I know how to calm myself down. I have developed lots of compassion for myself, making me feel secure with my body image and with my decision. I’m not scared about failure (I even like to add I’ve learned so much from my mistakes that I’m ready to make a few more!) I’ve learned how to laugh about myself and not to be a control freak when things go wrong. I don’t blame myself. I have developed lots of self-compassion. When I’m travelling I just go out there and can go anywhere, I love it. I don’t really care about what people are going to think or say about me (as I trust those who care and love me for me) I don’t think about it. I also accept a NO, I don’t feel rejected when someone disagrees or says no, I don’t feel like it’s the end of something and I actually think I am learning from someone who challenges my opinion.
Also, if someone asks a question or checks what I’m eating, I don’t explain, or more, justify myself. Sometimes I have had a big lunch, and so a lighter dinner, but as I’m having dinner people check on my plate, I don’t really spend time talking/responding to this as I know what is good for me! And this is another big point which complicates recovery, making it more difficult or harder. It’s what people do and how they look at you (even family). As you want to convince them that you’re fine now with food, you can over eat just to show them!! This is wrong as you are not yourself!!
– Karine Berthou, Founder & CEO, Succeed Foundation