There’s a fine line between sharing intense negative feelings, called venting, and their morphing into gripes and grumbles that seem to have a life of their own. The former is a useful way to manage emotions in the short-term, while the latter actually adds considerably to emotional distress. Therefore, it pays to be able to distinguish between the two.

Read More Venting versus Complaining

I was talking with a client who complained about having problems, yet felt she built her self-esteem around solving them. Her thinking made me realize that disregulated eaters often seem stuck on this merry-go-round. If you too are on it, it’s time to get off.

Read More Having Problems to Solve Them

Ed is such a bad actor. There really is no other way to say it. He is always sighing, moping around and doing his best to imitate his favorite Oscar-winning actress …. (imagine fake cheesy motherly accent) "Oh, there is just no hope. Just LOOK at how long you've been struggling to recover! I wish I knew what else I could do to help, but…… (another loud, dramatic sigh) ….." Oh, Ed, give it a…

Read More Your Life is YOURS (not the eating disorder’s)

Here’s your pop quiz for today: 1) Is there a correlation between how frequently you think about losing weight and the shedding of pounds? 2) Is there a correlation between how desperately you want to lose weight and losing it? 3) Does focusing, or worse, obsessing about losing weight actually help you lose it?

Read More The Relationship Between Thinking About Weight and Losing Weight

Do you know the three words you never want to say to yourself when you’re faced with eating decisions? “I don’t care.” Say them and you know what food- and body-abusing road you’re heading down. The fact is, you do care. You care, you care, you care!

Read More Don’t Tell Yourself You Don’t Care

After hanging out with someone for a good bit of time, they should know quite a bit about you, right? And vice versa. So let's start by what we know about Ed. I'll go first. Ed is….narrow-minded. Judgmental. Vindictive. Two-faced. Okay. Your turn. What's that? Ed is….belittling. Unsupportive. Scary. Cruel. Yup. Check that. We've got the read on our buddy Ed alright. Now let's ask Ed what he knows about us. He has made us…

Read More It is Time to Meet the Rest of YOU